Suid-Afrikaanse Gesinne is in ʼn Krisis

Int Familie dag“Suid-Afrikaanse gesinne is in ‘n krisis. Nie almal beleef dit nie, maar die wye prentjie bevestig dit keer op keer”, so sê Erna Rheeder, SAVF FAMNET koördineerder tydens Internasionale Gesindsag wat op 15 Mei 2015 wêreldwyd herdenk word.

Ongeveer 65% (12 miljoen) Suid-Afrikaanse kinders word sonder pa’s groot. “Dit laat ʼn groot leemte in kinders se lewens. Die effek van betrokke vaderskap in kinders se lewens is verreikend wat betref sekuriteit, intellektuele ontwikkeling, rol ontwikkeling en weerstand teen afhanklikheidsvormende gedrag”.

Enkelouergesinne oor die algemeen, het ʼn kleiner inkomste in vergelyking met twee-ouergesinne. Dit maak oorlewing dikwels moeilik en verklein die kans van die enkelouer-kind om die armoede-lokval later in sy of haar lewe te ontsnap .

Verder gaan armoede, gebrekkige seksopvoeding en verswakte gesinsverhoudings hand-aan-hand met tienerswangerskap. “Suid-Afrika het uitermatig groot aantal tienerswangerskappe.  Volgens 2012 statistiek was 39% van meisies, tussen die ouderdom van 15 en 19 jaar reeds eenkeer swanger.  Tydens ʼn onlangse oueropleidingsprogram in Pretoria, was 25% van die kursus gangers tiener-ouers waarvan meestal reeds twee kinders gehad het”, sê Rheeder.

Rheeder het ook genoem dat sowat 28% van alle Suid-Afrikaanse kinders jaarliks fisies mishandel word, terwyl bykans die helfte van kinders (42%) emosioneel mishandel word.

“Ons kinders het die reg tot beskerming, maar kan nie hulleself beskerm nie. Dit ouers se verantwoordelikheid om kinders te beskerm. Tog staan ouers dikwels magteloos teen die media invloede, geweld in die samelewing, of die ander ouer wat juis skade doen”.

“Dit het tyd geword dat die aktivis in elke landsburger vreesloos opstaan en daaraan saamwerk om gesinne te versterk en gesinswaardes weer eerste te stel. Dit is duidelik dat mense wat net oorleef en dit dikwels in enkelouergesinne doen, min weet van oueropvoeding. Die honger na inligting wat kind-grootmaak kan verbeter is ontsaglik groot. Ouerleiding bemagtig ouers en verminder gesinsgeweld. Die staat het begin belê in die aanbied van goeie ouerskapsprogramme en moet dit verder uitbrei. Die armstes het dit die nodigste”.


Volgens Rheeder is daar tog hoop vir die gesinskrisis in Suid Afrika. “ Ons sien daagliks tydens die Front Page Father oueropleidingskursusse hoe pa’s verantwoordelikheid neem.  Dikwels was hierdie mans self mishandel toe hy jonger was en het sonder ʼn pa grootgeword.  Deur geloof, insette van rolmodelle en innerlike oortuigings het hulle gekies het om hulle gesinne anders te hanteer en ʼn verskil in ander se lewens te maak.”

 

 

Cost Effective Health Care on International Nurses’ Day Agenda

SAVnurses dayF commemorate International Nurses Day on Tuesday, 12 May 2015. The Organisation supports this year’s theme that focus on the role that nurses play in delivering cost effective health care to all.

“The theme for International Nurse’s Day 2015 is ‘Nurses: A force for change: care, effective, cost effective’. The cost of healthcare is rising worldwide, placing a heavy financial burden on health systems. South Africa is no exception. The large influx of migrants from neighbouring countries makes it difficult to plan and execute adequate financing, cost effectiveness, and resource management in health care facility throughout the country. The decisions that nurses make in everyday practice makes a vital difference in the financial efficiency and effectiveness of the South African health care system”, according to Sonet Roos, SAVF Nursing service co-ordinator.

As part of this years International Nurses day awareness campaign, the Democratic Nurses Association of South Africa (DENOSA) distributed a kit containing tools and information that assist nurses to become engaged in -, and knowledgeable about – health system financing.

“SAVF will use this kit to empower our trainee nurses, as well as qualified nurses working in our facilities. The kit provides an overview of health financing, the efficient use of resources and efficient service delivery. It is of utmost importance for SAVF, as a non-profitable organisation, to utilise our human  – and financial resources in the best possible way to ensure that the best health care is provided and nurses play a pivotal role in this endeavour”.

What is so special about mentorship?

Now what is so special about mentorship?

I get a huge kick out of stories. Being a mentor means listening to stories. Oh how these group leaders love sharing their stories!
They need to put their stories into words and to make sense of it. They need to find others who share similar experiences who will say: “I will come with you” or “I understand.” And we only facilitate it.
They need to hear they are doing well…and we heard of beautiful things happening in their groups. Bright spots which we could lift out and say: “Well done!” We see passion, enthusiasm, joy, excitement, care and it is so easy to encourage more of it.
Being alone with a passion for change often kills the passion and prevents good action. But as one of 44 people with 2 mentors in the background, that passion flames into a blazing fire of change.
I love getting to know people. After a morning of training I often don’t even know the names of the trainees. But these mentorship sessions take us beyond that. We build relationships. We care. We empower, encourage, cry and celebrate with them.
Our first mentorship session included presenting certificates. One of the trainees is a professional photographer and offered a proper photo shoot for each leader. What a celebration! The joy and sense of belonging were felt strongly!
Above all this is my calling. God called me to bring good news, bind up the broken hearted, proclaim freedom for the captives and release from darkness for the prisoners, to bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, oil of gladness instead of mourning, a garment of praise for the spirit of despair. They will be called oaks of righteousness. They will rebuild…, restore…, renew! They, the same people who started out in darkness and pain. (Isa 61)
He promised: “I am going to do something in your days that you will not believe, even if you were told!” (Hab 1:5)
Watch this spot!
Erna

More on parenting programmes

30th April. Our first mentorship session.
Our training session on 16 April started at 9h00. In reality we began 10h15…with 15 people…and ended the day with 44!
But on 30th April groups of people were waiting at the gate by 8h30 already! We smiled and hugged and buzzed as everyone shared their news. We took Steve, our filmmaking friend, with to video record the stories. And what stories we got!
Everyone recruited group members – between 6 and 12 each. There were grannies, parents in their 20’s to 50’s and teenage parents. I counted almost 50 teenage parents being presented in my group leaders’ groups. They had challenges, but they mostly enjoyed their first sessions. And all of them agreed that this programme is making a difference.
A 20 year old group leader gathered 6 teenage moms for her group sharing the importance of communication with their children and support for each other.
Anna shared the story of an 18 year old mother of 2 who lost all people close to her at an early age and never experienced being loved and cherished. Now she would often leave her own children alone at home, spending no time with them and neglecting their basic needs…because she did not know how. Her firstborn was already at school going age, but still at home. She was encouraged to care for her children and to spend quality time with them. Anna went to school with her to register the little girl and altogether this was a beautiful new beginning for this family.
The grannies in the groups mostly resisted being taught by young group leaders, but soon relaxed, realising all group members need each other. They are mostly in groups with teenage parents. “This is the opportunity to begin experiencing Ubuntu again,” was the general feeling in the group.
Challenges which were discussed were lack of communication, bullying behaviour, managing aggression, sexual exploitation, moms and dads pulling children apart and abuse of nyope – the common drug found among children.
We haven’t solved all the problems yet. We don’t have all the answers. But we presented a tool which empowered group leaders to bring hope and light in the lives of people living in darkness.
Erna

Parenting programmes

When Kevin and I trained two classrooms with 44 people from Soshanguve and New Eersterus on 16 April 2015, I knew this was a God given dream come true.
We often present the Botswadi parenting training. But for the last 3 years I had this growing conviction that it is not enough. Many people get trained and never use it. Maybe they are scared or always have to answer to other priorities rather than hosting parenting groups. My thinking was that regular mentorship sessions for trained group leaders could make the difference. It would motivate them to start group work and also relieve their fears of not knowing answers to difficult questions.
It was part of my planning to pilot such a parenting programme in Soshanguve last year. But… I also faced other priorities.
That was when the Department of Social Development in Gauteng stepped in and asked us to send in a proposal for a parenting programme in Soshanguve, New Eersterus and Diepsloot. We became their service providers, training DSD Officials and community members as group leaders in our well established parenting course.
The group leaders have to find group members and present weekly sessions while we meet them for three mentorship sessions. In July we will train them in our newly developed UBABA UNATHi (Daddy with us) father involvement course and follow the same pattern. We will end with a Spring Day workshop, celebrating, giving out certificates and sharing more valuable information.
It took hard work to get to 16 April. But 44 information hungry people sucked in all they could get. They beamed: “Now we can go and make a difference!” “This will mean so much to our people.” Some WhatsApped me: “Parents say they can now connect with their children.” Patrick said: “We have three sessions a week. The children must see we stand together. We even made ourselves Botswadi T-shirts.” Caroline and Elizabeth said: “There are too many parents who need this. Can I have 2 groups?” Denis aims at hosting three groups.
Ignoring this dream would have meant leaving 44 people plus 10 group members each, plus their families in darkness, not knowing how to get to the light. Now they can see…
Erna Rheeder